There are dates that, although little known, possess a deep symbolism and a message that transcends time. One of them is the 15th of Av, known as Tu B’Av, a day that in ancient times was linked to union, love, and marriage.

The Talmud tells us that on this day, the maidens would dress in white and go out to the vineyards to dance joyfully, to be seen by the single young men. The most beautiful part is that, to avoid distinction between the rich and the poor, many women would lend dresses to others, so that everyone presented themselves equally, showing only the beauty of their inner self and their face. During the dance, they would sing to the young men:

“Lift up your eyes, do not seek only external beauty; look at the heart and the family, because external beauty is fleeting.”

The 15th of Av also recalls two very significant historical moments:

Initially, the tribes of Israel could only marry within their own tribe to safeguard the territories that were allocated (Numbers 27:1–11). Later, after the war against the tribe of Benjamin, marrying their maidens was forbidden (Judges 20). However, realizing that this tribe was at risk of disappearing, marriage between the tribes was once again permitted (Judges 21). It was a reminder that unity and love are stronger than divisions.

Also on that same date, King Josiah corrected a past error: King Jeroboam had erected alternative temples to keep the northern tribes away from Jerusalem (1 Kings 12). Josiah restored the worship of the true God (2 Kings 23).

These two stories show us something essential: true love, both human and spiritual, cannot be sustained without unity and without a heart that seeks the eternal.

What Does Tu B’Av Teach Us Today?

Many young people often ask: “How can I know if someone is the partner God has for me?” The answer is simpler than it seems:

1. Someone who truly attracts and pleases you.

2. Someone who reciprocates your feelings and shares your heart.

3. Someone who brings you closer to God and strengthens your faith.

If these three things are present, then there are clear signs of true love. That is why this day, although not a commandment or mandatory calendar date, has been considered an auspicious moment to get engaged, confirm a love, or renew the union in marriage.

Beyond Human Love

Tu B’Av is also a reminder of a greater love: the love between God and His people. Just as the love between a man and a woman is built physically and spiritually, our relationship with God must also be complete and true. Therefore, many take advantage of this day to read the Song of Songs, a poem of spiritual love, and Ephesians 5:21–33, where Paul speaks of the union between husband and wife as a reflection of the bond between the Messiah and His community.

An Invitation

Celebrating Tu B’Av today is more than an ancient tradition. It is an opportunity to remember that:

• True love does not distinguish social classes.

• Authentic love unites, it does not divide.

• And the love that endures always has a spiritual foundation.

If you already celebrate it, allow each year to be a reminder to renew your commitment to your partner and to God. And if you have never celebrated it, this can be a beautiful moment to start.

Author: Dr. Liber Aguiar